First Entry

Welcome to my blog!

About a week ago, I got an instant message from an old army buddy, Derek, whom I hadn't spoken to in nearly 6 years. He has encouraged me to create a blog, and after viewing his and a few others, I've decided to jump into this with both feet.
I'm a little nervous that I'll run out of content for this, or that I'll become too busy to keep it properly maintained... we'll see what happens though. Comments and constructive critisism are always welcome, so feel free to contact me if you'd like.

Relationships

Ahh, relationships. Being a 26 year old divorcee gives me a little different perspective on relationships I think. I was never really one to date much in high school and found the person I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with at the ripe age of 19. Turns out that only lasted for 4 years hehe...

Relationships are on my mind a lot lately. I see people hopping in and out of relationships on a regular basis and I guess it's discouraging for me, because I don't want to do that to myself. I've been single for about 2 years now, and I think I'm ready to get back into the dating scene, but at the same time I don't want to get back into the dating scene because of what I'm seeing lately. It also seems like all the women that are interested in me either are married and claim to be getting ready to get a divorce, or have just recently broken up with someone they've been dating. It makes me wonder if these people are co-dependant and are jumping from one relationship to another so that they won't be alone or if I'm over analyzing things?

I guess another thing that's got me a little discouraged is that I really haven't met anyone lately that I thought was either serious dating material or potential wife material, but I have been accused in the past of being too picky. I guess time will tell..........

Social Dynamics of a Chatroom

Ok, so I fequently visit a Yahoo chatroom and it's probably the oddest chatroom I've ever been to. The single biggest reason that I continue to go to the chatroom is that it's "local", meaning people from the town that I live in go there, and if you were wanting to possibly meet someone you could do it. There is nothing worse than chatting in a room and seeing a hot chick, start talking to her, only to find out she lives 2,000 miles away.

The second reason that I go to this particular chatroom is because it's truely a virtual-trainwreck. A lot of the people that are "regulars" to the room not only participate in the chat, a lot of them are friends in real life too.. this is where the trainwreck begins. As with any relationship, sometimes it has it's ups and downs. It's interesting because sometimes these chatters will have a falling out, which spills over into the chatroom and these little social circles develop over who is friends with who, who is longer friends with who because of their friendship with another person, etc. etc. I think most of these problems develop because a lot of the regs are women, who tend to gossip. Most of the arguements that occur in the chatroom are about who is fucking who, who is a whore, and who is a bitch. There are a handful of regulars, both male and female who choose not to participate in the fighting, and that's the social group that I belong to.

Another thing that I've found interesting is a feature that the chatroom lacks, which is a leader. Think about various social groups you know of, whether it's the group of friends you hang out with on a regular basis, community organizations, work, etc.. there is usually someone who either by default or through campaigning, that emerges as the leader of the group. I haven't seen anyone like that in this chatroom who has a broad influence over the members.